What is a Success ?

Hello Tilters ,

Straight to the point. Let us ask, “What’s Success?’

Then let’s dig into what’s ‘true’ success.

I too spent years trying to define ‘success’. Got inspired by every motivational talk and every inspirational book and got crazy about accomplishing something BIG in life.

Initially, I stated to believe that achieving BIG goals would make me taste success. As days passed by, I realized that what I was wanting to experience and what I was actually feeling inside were absolutely on the opposite.

I turned it a quest to find an answer to the same question you asked, “What’s success?”

I spent time reflecting on my understanding of the word ‘success’ as well as how others had defined it.

Days turned into months, I kept on keeping on, and still was not satisfied with the definitions I was getting.

Finally, after months of deep exploration, I discovered the answer from ‘The Strangest Secret’ by Earl Nightingale and ever since I am relaxed and deeply satisfied with whatever I am achieving.

Curious what it is? Here’s what I got to know from Earl Nightingale’s ‘The Strangest Secret’…

Put simply, you are successful when you are able to do what you love to do.

Wow!

It turned my perception of achievement and success, and I began to refocus on what I love to do - Speaking and Training!

May be you will find what you love to do and are passionate about!

And wish you success in your own way!

See every day all over the nation young people start working in new jobs. Each of them "wishes" that someday he could enjoy the success that goes with reaching the top. But the majority of these young people simply don't have the belief that it takes to reach the top rungs. Some of them think that they have get the job, they achieve the success of life, but this is not the true success.

But a small number of these young people really believe they will succeed. They approach their work with the " I'm-going-to-the-top" attitude. They learn how successful people approach problems and make decisions. They observe the attitude of successful people .And with substantial belief they reach the top after it they enjoy the true success of life.

So, true success really means freedom : freedom from worries, fears, frustrations, and failure.

Take  some time  out of your daily schedule to define True Success.

"Success is a process and a feeling; it's a warm glowing feeling inside about who I am, what I do, and how I am living."

This week, set aside a window of time just for you and answer these questions:
1. What does success mean to you?
2. What do you really want in your life?
3. What, above all else, is most important to you?

Then, take the essence of all these answers and put them into a single statement. This statement is your definition of True Success. It's what living  success... from the inside out means to you. Keep this statement in front of you; letting it act as your guide while you move along your path of true success.

True success? In my ideal and idealistic world of best success is that my actions, my thoughts and words somehow, even in the slightest way, contributed to another persons well being. It has happened a few times, I think. I think to approach a greater likelihood of that happening every day, no matter how small, would be success as well. It is never ending.

Of course, having grown up in the west, I also live with the pre-packaged standard model or ‘ideal’ of success in my mind. Owning a fancy red car. Some hotshot sex bomb. Endless wealth. All empty (though maybe not mutually exclusive to the former, just highly unlikely).

Out of my personal experience, I would say its...

FAILURE, a decisive factor in sticking to your goal and staying motivated. Handling failure is the most important skill a person can have and one must learn it.

I have seen people with extreme passion and talent get distracted from their goal because they failed once or twice. Failure could shake your self-confidence, make you feel not worthy enough to achieve your goals and at that point most people either give up on their goals or lower their self-expectations or add distractions to their life.

But only those people who understands that FAILURE is an inevitable part in the journey to SUCCESS has the motivation to keep going down that path with full enthusiasm. Failure is best teacher you could have and you should stop portraying it in a negative sense.Infact, you should be proud of your failures, because you know more than those people who have never tried and the irony is that when you will actually succeed, you will know more than those who never failed in their path to success.

So, don't worry if you failed at the most basic level, don't worry if you failed a gazillionth time, don't worry if everyone is laughing at your dreams, keep believing in yourself, keep persevering, you will eventually get there and when you will, you not only will know which one is the right path but also where the wrong path leads to.

A personal thought:
Whenever making a decision, don't see success and failure as a choice you need to make at the crossroad, but rather see failures as milestones on the path to success.

Success teaches us nothing; only failure teaches.
 --Hyman G. Rickover